Divorce and Children

Divorce is hard on children, but it doesn't necessarily affect them negatively into adulthood. Studies have shown that divorce may not result in long-term damage to the extent previously believed. New data suggests that up to 75% percent of children do not experience long-term problems after divorce. This appears to directly conflict with prior research, which showed that children of divorce are at risk for mental health problems, social difficulties, and other emotional problems.

Divorce – New Child Data

The new data seems to show that differences between children with significant difficulties and children who adjust well post-divorce often come down to parental behavior(s) after divorce. Extensive study tracked several hundred single parents and their children. After observing the families for six years, researchers isolated a two-pronged form of parent strategy that clearly seemed to influence and develop well-adjusted children. This approach applies an even application of discipline and nurturing. Parents who nurtured their children through personal attention, involvement with homework and other at-home interactions developed children with higher self-esteem and lower instances of depression. As well, parents who practiced firm, fair and consistent discipline developed children who did well in school and generally avoided drugs, alcohol, and juvenile delinquency. Involved parents tended to keep a close eye on their children's activities and relationships with other children, and performance with schoolwork.

Studies are now looking closely at parenting behaviors in single-parent homes. Results from the single-parents study seem equally effective whether the parent was a mother or father.  

Divorce – Quality Parenting Helps

Divorce disrupts the family dynamic, and may negatively affect kids in the short-term. However, divorce by itself does not seem to end a child’s happiness, or even affect a healthy start in life. Quality parenting, even by divorced parents, helps children along their path by reminding them that involved parents are invested in their lives.